Marrying Anita, Anita Jain

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A well written book and true to experience.  For most part it seemed biographical and at other times it seemed Anita sat their like a wall flower. That’s what authors do you see. They being parts of their own and others lives into their stories. Most of the time it’s an interpretation and sometimes just narration or here say. 

Anita writes about marriage like no one else. She doesn’t make marriage a drama or a big wedding. She has been searching for her soulmate, but mostly she seems to like the subject more than the attainment of it. She approaches marriages as a subject and not as someone who is interested to marry. A joyful ride meeting an interesting bunch of people, even some romantic interests, bad dating, one night stands and just hanging out. She tries and experiments with people pf most religions, race or nationality. Even our good Indian boys didn’t seem to be agreeable. There were such nice guys including those who wrote poetry, shared reading styles, had great conversations and dream of adventures. 

I am not someone who has explored multiple relationships or being on the search for a groom. You can say mine is the quintessential love story where I am married to the my college sweetheart. It’s beautifully romantic and as wonderfully mundane as a marriage can be.  So I am not sure how the scene is out there while I have grown up in the vicinity of the author. So I am aware of the Delhi partying scene and the chase. It was taxing but something was always going on. 

I love how she shares statistics, facts, observations and opinions all put together. That you can’t stop but relate to her. 

Although I must say as the right side of the book thinned a part of me wanted to believe that she will find her true love. From 100 pages to 50 pages I started worrying if this is the build up to a sequel where we get to know her story. Cursing myself to committing to another book but still going to read it. And finally the *spoiler alert* which made me want more but also happy and proud that the author could end a book about marriage with no marriage in the end. Even Vikram Seth had to bow down to readers expectations and give them a marriage in a Suitable Boy. 

Come on Anita I am waiting for the sequel. I am sure who ever your married must have a good sense of humor. Some pearls to share: 

Everything in  India is a paradox. Whatever can be said about India’s that is true, the opposite is also true.

Up until just a few years ago, divorced women and gay men were types of circus freaks in India - they were the bearded lady, the elephant man, the Siamese twins.

You know Maria Callas just life-ist. She couldn’t carry in anymore. 

Vincent what’s a life-ist?

You know, people who even then like isn’t great and has set them back, they feel the need to have fun and enjoy themselves, rather than the instinct to recoil from the world.